Sex Industry

March 21, 2007 at 2:27 pm (ethics, sex, sociology)

It has been said that prostitution is the second oldest profession (Motherhood the oldest).

It has also been said that a very large proportion (Lies, damn lies and statistics and all that, so I shall omit the statistics quoted) of internet traffic/usage is porn related.

I wonder if society did not prohibit sex between sexually mature individuals (whatever age) (and frown upon exposure of the flesh in a manner that could cause arousal) by law or religious doctrine would people (admittedly mostly men) become so obsessed with the aesthetic side of sexual attraction for example?

I also wonder if prostitutes are switched off psychologically or living with some kind of denial when going about their business.


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Sexual promiscuity and double standard

March 21, 2007 at 2:24 pm (ethics, feminism, sex)

It’s quite common for society to view women who sleep around less favourably than men who sleep around. It might even be taken to the extreme where the promiscuous woman is frowned upon and the promiscuous man is cheered.

Even as I write this, I feel compelled to say that I am not promiscuous. So even I do not wish to be judged this way.

I recently read The Double Standard by Donald Symons in which he discusses why this is the case:

The male desire for sexual variety may also pay off reproductively if it results in obtaining additional wives, especially young wives, and the strength of the sexual desire for young women may vary with male age. It seems likely that throughout human history in early middle age married men often became able to obtain and to support an additional wife or wives, and hence the sexual desire for young women would be especially adaptive at this age.

As a man never can be certain of paternity, a cuckold risks investing in the offspring of, and having his wife’s reproductive efforts tied up by, a reproductive competitor; as a woman always is certain of maternity, and as her husband’s adultery does not diminish his capacity to inseminate her, a wife may risk little if her husband engages in extramarital sex.

From an evolutionary perspective, however, a wife’s most important sexual attribute by far is fidelity, and this male tendency is less paradoxical

What does everyone else think?

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Sex II

March 21, 2007 at 2:19 pm (sex)

Should we be more involved emotionally with our significant others and not worry about sex at all?

What is the general opinion as it relates to philosophy?

 Is mankind’s obsession with sex something that needs to be overcome?

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To my fans II

March 7, 2007 at 8:50 pm (bizzare, ethics, feminism, general philosophy, Interzis minorilor, literature, philosophy of the arts, politics/law/economy, Rasfrangeri, Raspunsuri, sex, Uncategorized)

I’m not gonna say this twice. This is a blog ment to allow you to express yourself. My posts are not relevant in what concerns MY personality, MY lifestyle, and MY beliefs. Do not, under any circumstance, equalise my posts with ME. And stop sending e-mail on my adress, unless you have something to say. Something relevant, I may add.

Thank you for your cooperation. Tschus!

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Pornography as art

March 6, 2007 at 4:25 pm (philosophy of the arts, sex)

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March 6, 2007 at 4:18 pm (sex)

For sure, it’s a biological function, but is it art?
Someone’s gonna mention porn…

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To my fans

March 5, 2007 at 8:01 pm (bizzare, ethics, feminism, general philosophy, Interzis minorilor, literature, philosophy of the arts, politics/law/economy, Rasfrangeri, Raspunsuri, sex, Uncategorized)

As you can see, i am a very, very, very understanding and patient laddie. I am not banning your comments although what you are posting is neither interesting, nor well written, not even original. however, if you will continue to write in this manner, i will delete every comment that doesn’t rise to my expectations. After all, this is not a “my sexual fantasy” forum.
Thank you, Sonia Rott.

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Sexuality and sensibility

March 3, 2007 at 1:06 pm (sex)

The truly blessed life involves the proper cultivation of both activity and passivity, working in harmony and mutuality. A horror of passivity lies in the condemnation and hatred towards openness. This will lead to a life impoverished in value and knowledge.

As a consequence we must attempt to seek what I would like to call the spirituality of everyday life. An experiential basis for qualitatively ranking the pleasures seems to be necessary to not let go to waste such openness for the transcendental. For that reason those pleasures like gluttony, which ?fat [us] like hogs? (Richard Hooker), are qualitatively inferior to those which accrue from aesthetic delight or contemplative ecstasy.

I?m not talking here about extremely esoteric matters; one simply needs to recall Abraham Maslow?s expression ?peak experience? to grasp what I suggest. A peak experience may be the result of seeing a sunrise on the desert, or being ?hit? by a line from T.S. Eliot, or of hearing the last movement of Tchaikovsky?s Pathque. And also, the pleasure derived from intimate sexual union with the ascent of the soul to spiritual ecstasy and mania.

This vision is of course not in any way new. The famous simile of the ladder of eros, proceeding from its first rung ? the physical love of a beautiful young body ? to the highest rung, the love of the divine ground, is but an example. However, perhaps it is time that we assess our spiritual freedom to turn from the Nietzsclean nihilism of the ?culture of desire? and recapture a new balance. We have the freedom to find our way through the chaos of competing sexual lifestyles and to take our bearings from a more paradigmatic expression of our humanity (whether gay, lesbian or straight).

The paradigm I think should be sought in a joining of sensibility and sexuality, the passionate sexual union is a metaphor for the soul?s ecstatic spiritual union with the divine. The aesthetic dimension of eros is paramount, for the lover sees in his beloved a reflection of divine beauty. The entire experience is suffused with tenderness. Eros embraces and nourishes the whole soul; it is far from being a merely physical act.

It is clear that today we often confuse sexuality with genital sexual union. Of course we must include genital sexual union in the love relationship, but the love relationship should be above all and primarily a sensibility or state of consciousness. Humour of a particular kind is very much part of that sensibility. Such humour should not repress but affirm and extol sexuality. It is fun and funny to be in love.

We should therefore defend the richness of lovers? play, reminding us that this receptivity expresses itself in jokes, puns and laughter as well as in the shared pursuit of wisdom. The openness in such relations should be an openness to transcendence or to how the being together of lovers encourages them to seek in their consciousness for the immutable ground of human mutable love and for the reality of Beauty in which every beautiful thing in the Between of human life participates, to the extent that it is really real. Surely ordinary experience suggests that the reason two people would be joined over time in such an intimate complete relationship is that their union suggests more than it contains and opens to them the Being in which they live and move.

Another message in this regard that I find important is the one carried by the existential reality of death. Dying to the world?s priorities, including the pursuit of power and money, is the prelude to loving the things that matter. Due to, for instance, Plato?s intense love of the beautiful body (in this case male) he was able to conceive of divine reality in erotic analogy. And what could be more divine in temporal existence than the body of one?s beloved?

Sex without love is empty, anonymous sex violates the very principle of encountering the other as partner in a spiritual quest and sex motivated by violence is a violation of true eros. A long-term, meaningful, relationship is consistent with this view and above all, tenderness must be the norm and beauty the animating spirit.

Of course, not everyone can be a spiritual mystic and attain to the vision of the Good (in Plato?s words) but we can all partake in some measure in the journey from the sensual love that joins true lovers together to Dante?s ?love that moves the sun and the other stars.? Nevertheless, fortunate is he, who finds his life partner and shares with her (or him) a fusion of sexuality and spirituality.

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March 3, 2007 at 1:02 pm (sex)

I am researching Family Values for a documentary film. I will be posting several threads that explore this subject. It would be helpful if you contribute to this research with your views on incest. If you could preface your view with a Y or an N to signify that you have personal experience, that would be even more helpful.

Incest is decreed by law as a crime. To most it is seen as a despicable sexual act. There is no census on how many children are the product of incest. But it surely is in the hundreds of thousands, if not millions. While the problem lies as skeletons hiding in our cultural closet, all those thousands of young lives are lived in shame and as lies.

The question is: If incest is entirely natural, in fact the way human evolution began, and was once openly practiced by Royalty, and to some extent still, is, and is used by breeders to obtain highly pedigreed offspring – why is incest considered to be a social crime?

Can the children of incestuous family relationships be allowed to come out of the closet and reveal their family secret and lead a decent life without suffering from social stigma? Or shall we keep the closet locked and refuse to assess the damage?

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Sexual morality

February 21, 2007 at 3:57 pm (sex)

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